We all have goals we want to achieve. Some may be short-term, such as getting a new job or finding a new date, while others may be long-term, like becoming a doctor or starting a family. But getting from where you are now to where you want to be can be difficult, especially if you don’t feel like you deserve to achieve your goals. If you’re feeling like you don’t deserve to achieve your goals because you think you don’t deserve to be happy, successful or have a good life, you’re not alone. This kind of thinking is called self-defeating thinking and it can hold you back from achieving your goals by making you feel like you don’t deserve to get there. In this blog post, we look at why this kind of thinking is harmful and how you can overcome it so you can finally achieve your goals and live the life you deserve.
What is self-defeating thinking?
Self-defeating thinking is a type of negative self-talk that makes you believe you don’t deserve to get what you want or achieve your goals. It’s a type of negative self-talk that is unhelpful, unrealistic and harmful. Self-defeating thinking is a cycle. You start feeling like you don’t deserve what you want, which makes you feel bad and less motivated to achieve your goals. This in turn makes you feel even less deserving of your goals, which makes you feel less motivated to achieve them. This negative cycle can affect you both on a personal level and when you’re trying to achieve goals in your work and personal life.
Why does self-defeating thinking hold us back from achieving our goals?
When you don’t feel like you deserve to achieve your goals, you don’t put in the effort you need to get there. You might not know how to get started, or you might not even be sure it’s a good idea in the first place. If you don’t feel like you deserve to achieve your goals, you’re probably not putting in enough effort. When you don’t put in the effort you need, you’re unlikely to get what you want. If you don’t feel like you deserve to achieve your goals, you might not bother to prepare properly or you might not be able to find the motivation to actually do the work needed to achieve them. If you don’t feel like you deserve to achieve your goals, you’re also unlikely to get the support you need to get there. If you don’t feel like you deserve to achieve your goals, you’re less likely to find a supportive community of people who can help you get there. If you don’t feel like you deserve to achieve your goals, you’re also less likely to know how to overcome the obstacles that are in your way. If you don’t feel like you deserve to achieve your goals, you’re less likely to know how to take advantage of opportunities that could help you get there.
How to overcome self-defeating thinking
The first step to overcoming self-defeating thinking is to accept that it’s a problem. You might not always feel like you deserve to achieve your goals, but that doesn’t mean it’s okay. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person or that you don’t deserve to be happy, successful or have a good life. It just means that you’re human and you’re going to have bad days. It’s important to remember that you’re not perfect and you’re going to make mistakes. It’s also important to remember that you’re not alone. The people who love you, who care about you and who want you to be happy are there for you, no matter what. You don’t need to feel bad about yourself because you don’t deserve to achieve your goals. In fact, you deserve to achieve your goals, regardless of how you feel right now. The key to overcoming self-defeating thinking is to take control and be proactive. You can’t change how you feel, but you can change how you act. You can take control of your thoughts and feelings by challenging the negative thoughts you have about yourself. You can also take control of your actions by making sure you’re prepared for the journey ahead and you’re ready to accept the support you need to get there. You can take control of your future by making plans for how you want to live it. You can take control of your present by accepting that you’re not happy with how things are right now and that you need to take action to change it.
Taking control of your thoughts
When you’re feeling like you don’t deserve to achieve your goals, the first thing you can do is challenge those thoughts. You can do this by writing down the negative thoughts you have about yourself and your future and then asking yourself if they’re true. For example, you might think, “I don’t deserve to achieve my goals because I’m not good enough.” You can then write down a response to this thought, such as, “I don’t deserve to achieve my goals because I’ve made mistakes and I’ve learned from them.” You can also ask yourself if the thought is helpful. For example, you might think, “I don’t deserve to achieve my goals because I’ve messed up so many times.” You can then write down a response to this thought, such as, “I don’t deserve to achieve my goals because I can learn from my mistakes.” You can also challenge the thoughts you have about yourself by asking yourself if they’re helpful. For example, you might think, “I don’t deserve to achieve my goals because I’ve messed up so many times.” You can then ask yourself if these thoughts are helpful. If you have a thought that isn’t helpful and you want to challenge it, you can write down a response to it, such as, “I don’t deserve to achieve my goals because I’ve messed up so many times.” You can also challenge the thoughts you have about yourself by asking yourself if they’re helpful. If you have a thought that isn’t helpful and you want to challenge it, you can write down a response to it, such as, “I don’t deserve to achieve my goals because I’ve messed up so many times.”
Taking control of your feelings
When you don’t feel like you deserve to achieve your goals, you might also be feeling negative emotions, such as sadness, anxiety, frustration or anger. You can change your feelings by challenging the thoughts that are causing them. For example, you might feel sad because you don’t feel like you deserve to achieve your goals. You can challenge this thought by writing down a response to it, such as, “I feel sad because I don’t feel like I deserve to achieve my goals.” You can also challenge the thoughts that are causing you to feel anxious by writing down a response to them, such as, “I feel anxious because I don’t feel like I deserve to achieve my goals.” You can challenge the thoughts that are causing you to feel frustrated by writing down a response to them, such as, “I feel frustrated because I don’t feel like I deserve to achieve my goals.” You can challenge the thoughts that are causing you to feel angry by writing down a response to them, such as, “I feel angry because I don’t feel like I deserve to achieve my goals.” You can also challenge your feelings by asking yourself if they’re helpful. For example, you might feel sad because you don’t feel like you deserve to achieve your goals. You can then write down a response to this feeling, such as, “I feel sad because I don’t feel like I deserve to achieve my goals.” You can also challenge the feeling of sadness by asking yourself if it’s helpful. For example, you might feel sad because you don’t feel like you deserve to achieve your goals. You can then write down a response to this feeling, such as, “I feel sad because I don’t feel like I deserve to achieve my goals.”
Taking control of your actions
When you don’t feel like you deserve to achieve your goals, you might also be feeling like you’re not in a position to take action. You can change this feeling by challenging the thoughts that are causing it. For example, you might feel like you don’t have the energy or the ability to take action to achieve your goals. You can challenge this thought
It’s human nature to want to achieve things. We strive to improve ourselves, make progress in our careers, and make positive changes in our lives. But sometimes we feel like we don’t deserve to achieve our goals. When we feel this way, it can be hard to keep going. However, these feelings are often temporary and are caused by a lack of self-worth. When we don’t feel like we deserve to achieve our goals, it’s usually because we don’t believe we’re good enough to achieve them. Thankfully, this is a temporary feeling and you can work on improving your self-worth so that you can feel comfortable achieving your goals again soon.
What is self-worth?
Self-worth is how much you believe you are worth. It’s a combination of your character, talents, and accomplishments. Your self-worth is something that changes over time as you gain more life experience. For example, as a teenager, your self-worth might be lower than it will be when you’re an adult. As you get older, you gain more self-confidence and experience, which will help you to feel more worthy of achieving your goals.Self-worth is also closely related to self-esteem. Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself overall, while self-worth is how much you believe you are worth as a person.
How can you feel more worthy of achieving your goals?
There are many ways you can feel more worthy of achieving your goals. Here are a few ideas to get you started: - Start small - You might not feel like you deserve to achieve your goals until you have a certain amount of progress under your belt. So, start small and work your way up. - Believe in yourself - You can’t let your lack of self-worth hold you back. Instead, you need to believe in yourself and your ability to achieve your goals. - Find inspiration - You can find inspiration for your goals in many places, such as in books, on the internet, or even in your own life experiences. You can also find inspiration in other people who are achieving their goals. - Accept help - Sometimes, you might not be able to achieve your goals on your own. In these cases, accepting help from others can help you to feel more worthy of achieving your goals.
Change your perspective on your goals
Instead of seeing your goals as unattainable, try to see them as achievable. This will help you to feel more worthy of achieving your goals. You can do this by changing the way you think about your goals. Start by breaking down your goals into smaller, more manageable pieces. This will help you to see your goals as more realistic. Also, try to find inspiration for your goals from other people who are achieving the same goals as you. You can also find inspiration for your goals by looking at photos of what you want to achieve. Finally, try to accept help when you need it. This will help you to feel more worthy of achieving your goals.
Be proud of yourself
When you feel unworthy of achieving your goals, it can be easy to compare yourself to other people. You might think that other people are achieving more than you are, or that you are less successful than you could be. This can make you feel like you don’t deserve to achieve your goals. Instead, try to focus on being proud of yourself. You are doing the best you can, and that’s enough.
Commit to small changes
If you are feeling unworthy of achieving your goals, it can be hard to keep going. However, you can commit to small changes that will help you to feel more worthy of achieving your goals again. Commit to making progress towards your goals, even if it’s small. For example, if you want to be healthier, commit to taking the stairs instead of the elevator. Keep a journal of your progress towards your goals, and take inspiration from other people who are achieving the same goals as you. With these small changes, you can feel more worthy of achieving your goals.
Conclusion
Feeling unworthy of achieving your goals can be difficult, but it’s also a temporary feeling. With the right mindset and a little bit of effort, you can feel more worthy of achieving your goals again. Start by changing your perspective on your goals, and be proud of yourself for the work you’re doing. Then, commit to small changes that will help you feel more worthy of achieving your goals again.